Counter-Psychology.

Backdated Article. Insightful Purposes. Straight CopyPaste from MySpace.

Disclaimer.

I warn this is rather lengthy; I wanted to make sure I covered every aspect I could think of. I encourage you to tell your friends about this, because perhaps there really is something missing from all our minds. This is just my idea of love; I would also love to hear your feedback. Before you judge this piece of work, remember that this is not an emotional load of shit that I have dumped on a MySpace blog. These are my pure thoughts and brutal honesty.

Love.

Until very recently I have been thinking constantly about the meaning of Love. I thought long and hard in essence of how love affects people and what it can make them do for other people. And such thoughts have lead me to understand some ideals concerning the issue. I had sometimes thought that love was taken as a personal experience that only some would come to realise. I had also sometimes thought that love was a tool of abuse, used to con people into doing their bidding or to cause a make believe concept in order to benefit one or more people other than those playing puppet to it.

But now I have come to a simple and unbiased conclusion regarding love. It is undefined. Rather simply, you can try to put a price on it, you can try to make tabs on it, you can try to understand it and make people fall in love or to try analysing it may just not help. Love is undefined in general. Through our own eyes there millions upon millions of definitions of Love, each to their own.

Love in my eyes can be described as the undefined feeling that you get when something you cherish comes around the bend and you notice it. When you notice it, it makes you feel special and you understand the bond between you and it. It’s not just an infatuation, it’s something you have built upon for so long that you care about the person (or object in some cases) more than anything. Love is loyalty, compassion and affection all put into one package. Signed, sealed and delivered from one heart to another.

Love can be acquired at any distance, even on any angle. You don’t have to be eye to eye with another. You could be miles and miles away from the person you feel you love, but it doesn’t even matter because you can just speak to the person and feel like you are in fact, right there next to them, sharing their emotions and their feelings.

Love is a strong emotion you hold for someone. True, deep love is something most people never find in life. Some may not realise it, some may not want to believe it, but this kind of love can be found in someone you like, just as much as it can be found in someone you hate. The person you love could hurt you, or make you cry, but throughout everything you’re feelings remain just as strong. It’s about going through all the good times as well as the bad times and feeling the same about them. You may not think about them every second, talk to them every minute, or see them every day, but you know its true love when you are able to put every bad or hurtful memory aside, and smile at how much they have made you a better person.

Love can be confusing, heartbreaking, exhausting, exhilarating or any other emotion imaginable in the world. You may not be with them, but your wishes would be forever their happiness. This love is looking back at all memories, and still smiling at the bad ones, because even without them you couldn’t imagine your life. It’s a feeling that is awoken deep within you. It’s got nothing to do with religion, with gender, with race, nor does it have to do with time, with place or with age. You have reasons for liking someone, but for loving someone there is no reason. You love them because you are destined to, because something, underneath the artificial layer of materialism placed on us all by society, is telling us to.

Just remember when you say that you are in love with someone. If you are in that stage of time where the relationship has just begun and you are on top of the world, hold tight, there is a possibility that the “Novelty” of the relationship could fade and you would be back at square one feeling sorry for yourself. The “Novelty” phase of a relationship is where everything feels so euphoric, so great, so fun and so perfect that you believe you will be in love with this person forever. The reality is, after a set amount of time, there is a high likelihood that you may get bored or “get over” this person that you claimed such love for. In light of this, it is always wise to take things slow when you believe you have found someone that fits your tastes and is not a complete waste of time. When I say waste of time, I mean a person that will not draw you out forever and pretend to like you when in truth; he/she just wants to fuck with your mind. These types of two-faced people should die slowly in the blazing infernos of hell.

You can’t make someone love you. You can love someone who doesn’t love you. You may not realise its love until too late. You cannot love without a whole lot of trust. You feel that way about someone for a reason. When they hold you, when they message you, when they come online, your heart just stops, and that feeling means something. You don’t know exactly what, but it’s there, that’s it, that’s love. You love them, they can hurt you, break your heart, but you know you could never let them go, or regret having them in your life.

This person has the ability to turn your world upside down, and then inside out, putting you on the most thrilling ride of your life. All the heartache would be worth it for one moment of that special feeling of love you share. The truth is, if you are ever privileged to find this love, treasure it, but don’t suffocate it. And if you lose it, remember it for what it was, not for what it isn’t anymore, smile for being able to ever have felt this way. Live your life as if it’s worth something, if you were already stripped of everything you trusted then you don’t have anything left to lose…

I believe Love is something to uphold and cherish. Something that MUST be shared, the person you love will see through every barrier you have, down to your true core, your heart, your soul. And this person will understand every last pain, hurt and sorrow that you have witnessed and they will lay their lips upon yours and everything will be forgotten, you will be free again and you will be on the verge of heaven. Love is the only gift that cannot be cherished at the present. It involves a lot of hard work, sacrifice and hope. The hope that you will remain together and share your lives, your thoughts, your feelings, your ideas, your ups, downs, smiles, frowns and all the details. The subject of Love is you and your partner, the rest is just details. Fuck the details, you have your love. Cherish it. It’s worthwhile.

Love is the main characteristic that can fuel a bundle of other emotions in our own human psyche. These can include hate, jealousy, confusion, lust, happiness, contentment. But sometimes we may never know where to stop. Where do we draw the line with Love? Does Love ever just stop loving us in return? Can the grip of the emotion just loosen that much that you may just fall out of love? It is possible.

To conclude, when you are in love, you may find yourself doing some things that you had never dreamed of, ever. A couple of times, I had fallen in love with someone that I believed was “The One.” (Oh, how wrong I was.) One such example is my inspiration for writing such pieces. When I had fallen in love with this person, she awoke a new passion in me. And I am sitting here fulfilling that right now. I am passionate about my Writing. I write about my thoughts, my ideals, my ethics, and my ethics. My mind. And those that follow my mindset, read my writings and relate to me, and provide feedback. Another such piece I had once written for this particular girl was poetry. I admit, I am no skilled poet, but I was passionate, and my mind was set to it. Seeing as this rant is large enough as it is, I’ll keep my poem with me. If you want it, just drop me a line sometime.

Some Facts.

- Remember:

Love is a very powerful word.
The Heart is a very powerful tool.
Do not abuse power.

- Good things may come to those who wait, but sometimes those that face their problems head on rather than biding their time, will find greater things. If you are procrastinating telling someone how you feel, or going out and doing something about a particular issue in your life, waiting may not be the best way. Even if you do lose, you’ll learn the valuable lesson to draw from it, and that’s more than enough.

- It’s better to do something rather than to do nothing. It’s better than nothing and sitting there knowing you did nothing is going to build inside of you, and you’ll become more and more fixated on the fact that you have done nothing and it will amount to nothing.

- If you ever thought it was easier to run, let me be one of the many that will tell you, it’s not the best decision. When you run away from it all, you may think you have done a good deed to whoever you have left by keeping your burden away, but in truth you have left the person wondering, if this was their fault, or if they were a burden to you. If you come to the stage where you think you may want to just run away, I suggest against it, because you will be back stumbling, crawling and crying about how you wish you could change, take back the pain, erase all your wrong moves and take your shame on your shoulders, followed by screaming for help like a dying animal. Face your fears. Face your pain. Stand up and face your future, you only have one life.

- Remember this when arguing with someone:

“One who knows nothing will understand nothing.”
If you don’t have half a clue about the issue, don’t argue, ask. It may be the resolution to the problem if you can help your friend/girlfriend/boyfriend with their problems.

- If someone is afraid of you invading their space, give them their space. I assure you now there is nothing more irritating than someone over your shoulder every 2 seconds asking you about what you’re doing and why you’re feeling the way you are. If you must know, wait and say you’re here for them. If they trust you, they’ll tell you.

- Remember:

Love is strong yet delicate.
It can be broken.
To truly love is to understand this.
To be in love is to respect this.

- There is no Beginning. There is no End. There is only Change.

Until Next Time.

Evz. (VoSx)